Prohibition of Bewailing the Deceased

Ibn Mas'ud (May Allah be pleased with him) said:
The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "He who (on befalling a calamity) slaps his cheeks, tears his clothes and follows the ways and traditions of the Days of Ignorance is none of us."

[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

وعن ابن مسعود رضي الله عنه قال: قال رسول الله ﷺ :"ليس منا من ضرب الخدود، وشق الجيوب، ودعا بدعوى الجاهليه" ((متفق عليه)).

Abu Burdah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:
(My father) Abu Musa got seriously ill and lost his consciousness. His head was in the lap of a woman of the family and she began to wail. When Abu Musa recovered his consciousness, he said: "I am innocent of those from whom Messenger of Allah ﷺ is innocent. Verily, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ declared himself free of (the responsibility) for a woman who wails, shaves her head and tears up her clothes."

[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

وعن أبي بردة قال: وجع أبو موسى، فغشي عليه، ورأسه في حجر امرأة من أهله، فأقبلت تصيح برنة فلم يستطع أن يرد عليها شيئًا، فلما أفاق ،قال : أنا بريء ممن برئ منه رسول الله ﷺ ، إن رسول الله ﷺ برئ من الصالقة، والحالقة، والشاقة.((متفق عليه)) "الصالقة": التي ترفع صوتها بالنياحة والندب. والحالقة : التي تحلق رأسها عند المصيبة الشاقة :التي تشق ثوبها.

Al-Mughirah bin Shu'bah (May Allah be pleased with him) said:
I heard the Messenger of Allah ﷺ saying, "He who allows (others) to wail over his death, will be punished for it on the Day of Resurrection."

[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

وعن المغيرة بن شعبة رضي الله عنه قال :سمعت رسول الله ﷺ يقول "من نِيح عليه، فإنه يُعذب بما نِيح عليه يوم القيامة" ((متفق عليه)).

Umm 'Atiyyah (May Allah be pleased with her) said:
At the time of giving the pledge of allegiance, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ took from us an oath that we would not wail.

[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

وعن أم عطية نَُسيبة -بضم النون وفتحها- رضي الله عنها قالت : أخذ علينا رسول الله ﷺ عند البيعة أن لا ننوح. ((متفق عليه)).

An-Nu'man bin Bashir (May Allah be pleased with them) said:
When 'Abdullah bin Rawahah (May Allah be pleased with him) became unconscious, his sister began to weep and shout: "Alas! For the mountain among men. Alas! for such and such (mentioning his virtuous qualities)." When he recovered his consciousness, he said: "I was asked (disapprovingly, by the angels) about everything you said concerning me whether I am as you said."

[Al-Bukhari].

وعن النعمان بن بشير رضي الله عنه قال: أغمي على عبد الله بن رواحة رضي الله عنه فجعلت أخته تبكي، وتقول: واجبلاه، وا كذا وا كذا: تعدد عليه فقال حين أفاق: ما قلت شيئًا ألا قيل لي :أنت كذلك؟! ((رواه البخاري)).

Ibn 'Umar (May Allah be pleased with them) said:
The Messenger of Allah ﷺ visited Sa'd bin 'Ubadah during his illness. He was accompanied by 'Abdur-Rahman bin 'Auf, Sa'd bin Abu Waqqas and 'Abdullah bin Mas'ud (May Allah be pleased with them). When they entered his house, they found him unconscious. The Messenger of Allah asked, "Has he died?" They replied: "No, O Messenger of Allah." Hearing this the Messenger of Allah ﷺ began to weep. When his Companions saw this, they also began to weep too. He said, "Listen attentively: Allah does not punish for the shedding of tears or the grief of the heart, but takes to task or show mercy because of the utterances of this (and he pointed to his tongue)."

[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

وعن ابن عمر رضي الله عنهما قال: اشتكى سعد بن عبادة رضي الله عنه شكوى فأتاه رسول الله ﷺ يعوده مع عبد الرحمن بن عوف، وسعد بن أبي وقاص، وعبد الله بن مسعود رضي الله عنهم، فلما دخل عليه، وجده في غشية فقال: "أقضي؟" قالوا: لا يا رسول الله فبكى رسول الله ﷺ فلما رأى القوم بكاء النبي ﷺ بكوا، قال: "ألا تسمعون؟ إن الله لا يُعذب بدمع العين، ولا بحزن القلب، ولكن يعذب بهذا" وأشار إلى لسانه "أو يرحم" ((متفق عليه)).

Abu Malik Al-Ash'ari (May Allah be pleased with him) said:
The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "If the wailing woman does not repent before she dies, she will be made to stand on the Day of Resurrection wearing a garment of pitch and a garment of scabies (Allah knows the nature thereof)."

[Muslim].

وعن أبي مالك الأشعري رضي الله عنه قال: قال رسول الله ﷺ : "النائحة إذا لم تتب قبل موتها تقام يوم القيامة وعليها سربال من قطران، ودرع من جرب" ((رواه مسلم)).

Asid bin Abu Usaid reported:
A woman who had taken a pledge of allegiance at the hand of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: "Among the matters in respect of which we gave the Messenger of Allah ﷺ the pledge not to disobey him in any Ma'ruf [i.e., all that Islam ordains (V:60:12)] was that we should not slap our faces, bewail, tear our clothes up and tear out our hair (in grief)."

[Abu Dawud].

وعن أسيد بن أبي أسيد التابعي عن امرأة من المبايعات قالت: كان فيما أخذ علينا رسول الله ﷺ، في المعروف الذي أخذ علينا أن لا نعصيه فيه: أن لا نخمش وجهًا، ولا ندعو ويلا، ولا نشق جيبًا، وأن لا ننشر شعرًا".

Abu Musa (May Allah be pleased with him) said:
The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "If anyone dies and the mourner gets up and says: 'Alas! For the mountain among men. Alas! For the chief ...' and such like, Allah will put two angels in charge of him who will beat on the breast and ask him (disapproving): 'Were you like that?' "

[At- Tirmidhi].

وعن أبي موسى رضي الله عنه أن رسول الله ﷺ قال: "ما من ميت يموت، فيقوم باكيهم، فيقول: واجبلاه، وأسيداه، أو نحو ذلك إلا وكل به ملكان يلهزانه: أهكذا كنت؟!". رواه الترمذي وقال حديث حسن.

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) said:
The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "Two things are signs of disbelief on the part of those who indulge in them: Slandering one's lineage and wailing over the dead."

[Muslim].

وعن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه قال: قال رسول الله ﷺ : "اثنان في الناس هما بهم كفر: الطعن في النسب، والنياحة على الميت" ((رواه مسلم)).