Forgiving others for backbiting
باب مَا جَاءَ فِي الرَّجُلِ يُحِلُّ الرَّجُلَ قَدِ اغْتَابَهُ
Sunan Abu Dawood, Book of General Behavior (Kitab Al-Adab)(view book)
Narrated Qatadah:
Is one of you helpless to be like AbuDaygham or Damdam (Ibn Ubayd is doubtful) who would say when morning came: O Allah, I gave my honour as alms to Thy servants?
حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عُبَيْدٍ، حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ ثَوْرٍ، عَنْ مَعْمَرٍ، عَنْ قَتَادَةَ، قَالَ أَيَعْجَزُ أَحَدُكُمْ أَنْ يَكُونَ، مِثْلَ أَبِي ضَيْغَمٍ - أَوْ ضَمْضَمٍ شَكَّ ابْنُ عُبَيْدٍ - كَانَ إِذَا أَصْبَحَ قَالَ اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي قَدْ تَصَدَّقْتُ بِعِرْضِي عَلَى عِبَادِكَ .
Classification
‘Abd al-Rahman b. ‘Ajlan reported the Messenger of Allah ﷺ as saying :
Is one of you unable to be like Abu Damdam? The people asked: who is Abu Damdam? He replied : A man of old before you. He then mentioned the rest of tradition to the tradition to the same effect. This version has : who would say (in the morning) : My honors is for the one who reviles me.
Abu Dawud said: This tradition has also been transmitted by Hashim bin al-Qasim from Muhammad b. 'Adb Allah al-'Ammi from Thabit on the authority of Anas from Prophet ﷺ to the same effect.
Abu Dawud said: The tradition of Hammad (i.e. 'Abd al-Rahman's version) is sounder.
حَدَّثَنَا مُوسَى بْنُ إِسْمَاعِيلَ، حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادٌ، عَنْ ثَابِتٍ، عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ عَجْلاَنَ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ " أَيَعْجَزُ أَحَدُكُمْ أَنْ يَكُونَ مِثْلَ أَبِي ضَمْضَمٍ " . قَالُوا وَمَنْ أَبُو ضَمْضَمٍ قَالَ " رَجُلٌ فِيمَنْ كَانَ مِنْ قَبْلِكُمْ " . بِمَعْنَاهُ قَالَ " عِرْضِي لِمَنْ شَتَمَنِي " . قَالَ أَبُو دَاوُدَ رَوَاهُ هَاشِمُ بْنُ الْقَاسِمِ قَالَ عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ الْعَمِّيِّ عَنْ ثَابِتٍ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا أَنَسٌ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ بِمَعْنَاهُ . قَالَ أَبُو دَاوُدَ وَحَدِيثُ حَمَّادٍ أَصَحُّ .